Day 1 Acceptance

When we lose someone in our life, it feels like that person was ripped from our hearts. There is a hole left in our hearts where they used to be and it is constantly bleeding. We try and beg and plead for them to give us a second chance. We make false promises. We use any form of manipulation we can possibly find.

Ask yourself this. If you were in their position, would you believe or even want to listen to anything that they are saying to you? Probably not. We learn at a very young age how to manipulate. When we didn't get what we wanted as a baby, what did we do? We cried. This is the most simple form of manipulation, making someone feel bad for you. Do you want your ex to come back to you because they feel sorry for you? Or do you want your ex to come back to you because they love you? 

So when you lose this significant other in your life, the first thing you MUST do is accept it. Accept that the relationship is over. Think about it this way, when you buy something and it breaks in the first day, do you take it back to the store looking for another broken one? No you look for a brand new one. That is the way you must look at this relationship. It was broken. If you ever want anything back, you must look for a new start. 

So for the first day of this blog, I want you to do a few things:

1. Accept the break up for what it is. This is done in your own heart. The dumper need not know. Just accept it.
2. Break all contact. This is a MUST. You are completely lost. You have no idea what is going on in your life right now. Is that even remotely attractive? No. Please, I beg that you just drop off the face of the earth in this person's eyes. NO CONTACT at all. Do not make the mistakes that I made. I will tell you later for how long, but for now, and maybe another 2 or 3 weeks, no contact. 
3. Relax and hope. If you read my previous post, you will understand why. Hope is the only way you can feel good about what will happen in the future. Let hope shine.
4. PRAY ask God to guide you to do what is best for you and your ex. He will.
5. Call your best friend and have them come pick you up. RIGHT NOW. Talk to them and tell them everything that you are feeling. If you hold it in then you will hurt yourself. 
6. Follow me on this blog. I have been through this. I know how to fix it. Even though I have not fixed it myself, its because I can not listen to my own advice. DO NOT listen to anyone else right now and please do not listen to your heart. Yes everyone says follow your heart, but right now your heart has a big hole in it. It wants anything and everything that will make it feel whole again. This blog will teach you patience, because it moves day by day on what you need to do.
7. Dream. Everything that happens in this world starts with a dream. Do you think that people just wake up one day and do? No. They make a dream in their mind and they follow it. Follow your dream.

Remember hope is only lost when you choose to let it go. Is there still a chance? That completely depends upon you. If you believe that there is still a chance then there absolutely is one.

God Bless

Chris